Did you just break up with your long-time partner and wonder, “Will I ever find love again?” Here’s why you for sure will!
Why you should be hopeful about finding love again
I totally get it. You just lost someone you absolutely adored and wanted to be with until the end of time. You thought you’d grow old with them and stay together forever and ever and ever. But life had other plans. They’re not by your side anymore, and it HURTS LIKE HELL! I know how you feel. And I just want to let you know that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel even though you can’t see it right now.
1. We live in an abundant universe
I know this might sound super ‘woo woo’ and spiritual. But hear me out:
The universe is soooo rich and abundant! There are billions of planets in the milky way. TWO TRILLION galaxies in the universe. And we might even be living in one of the many universes in the multiverse. Like… it’s so crazy how minuscule and tiny we are in the grand scheme of things. The universe is so abundant that it’s impossible for our brains to comprehend the infinite amount of possibilities out there.
So if you think that you can’t find love, think again. In this universe FULL OF POSSIBILITIES, anything is possible!
2. It’s happened once, and it could happen again
Okay, let’s get more logical here.
If you’ve fallen in love once, twice, or even thrice already in your life, there’s no reason why it couldn’t happen again. Love is a strange and complicated thing, and there’s no one formula for finding it. But as many people say, love usually finds you when you least expect it.
Just think back to the time when you broke up with your first love who you swore you’d marry. You thought you’d never find love again and you’d be doomed for life. And guess what, there you were, a few years later, finding love again with someone amazing. So don’t lose hope! Love is not a once-in-a-lifetime thing. It can happen over and over again.
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3. You’re so freaking awesome!
You’re kind, you’re beautiful inside and out, you’re awesome, you’re empathetic, and you have SO MUCH LOVE TO GIVE! Who wouldn’t want to love you and be loved by you?
If you’re struggling with self-esteem or just don’t think that you’re worthy of love, take out a piece of paper, and write down all the positive things about yourself. I know this can be difficult at first since it can feel like you’re lying to yourself. But just give it a try. After doing this for a few weeks, you’ll start to notice your negative self-talk start slowly fade away. You’ll realize that you are, and always were, worthy of love.
4. There’s no such thing as too old
There’s no age limit to love! Love can happen at any stage of our lives. Some people are lucky enough to find their soulmates in their early 20s, but for others, love comes later on. And that’s completely OK! Just because you didn’t get married at 21 doesn’t mean you can’t find happiness and companionship later in life.
And actually, some of the best relationships are formed later in life, after we’ve had time to grow and learn who we are. So if you’re losing hope about finding love, don’t. Keep your heart open, and you never know when cupid might strike!
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5. Everyone is worthy of love
I know this sounds super cheesy and cliche. But it’s true. We’re all worthy of love. It doesn’t matter where we grew up, how tall we are, the color of our skin, and our level of education. We’re all born worthy of love.
For a lot us, this concept can be hard to internalize because we grew up having to PROVE our worth. If we didn’t get straight As in school, our parents would yell at us and take away our playtime privileges. As we grow up, we start believing that if we don’t make a certain amount of money each year, then that means we’re not good enough and not deserving.
But this is complete BULLSH*T (excuse my language)! Our worthiness is not determined by our productivity, status, income level, or any other outside forces. You’re inherently worthy, and you don’t need to earn it or strive for it. It’s already within you.
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6. Positive attracts positive
If you have a positive attitude and open your heart up, you can definitely find love again. Remember, positive energy attracts more positive energy. So if you want to find love again, focus on putting out positive vibes. Smile a lot, try out new experiences, put yourself out there, meet new people, and just enjoy life! Like, seriously, savor every moment and be present.
When you’re loving life and vibrating at a high frequency, trust and believe you’ll soon attract someone on the same wavelength as you 😉
7. Every experience helps you grow
What doesn’t kill you stronger. Amiright?
When you break up with the love of your life, it can feel like the world is crashing down on you, and you’ll never experience happiness again. But I genuinely believe that every hardship we go through in life is to teach us a lesson or make us stronger.
It may not make sense right now. But 10 years from now, you’ll understand why this all happened. So don’t lose hope and keep moving forward. Everything happens for a reason, and I’m sure the universe has something amazing waiting for you ahead.
What are my chances of finding love again?
According to the researchers at the University of Bath, the odds of falling in love (without making any effort to find love) is 1 in 562 (0.017%)
I know. This number may seem depressing, but you actually greatly increase your chances of finding love by taking action!
The same researchers found that there are several ways you can positively impact the odds of you finding love again:
- Meeting people via an online dating site increases your chances of finding love by 17%
- Meeting coworkers and friends of coworkers increases your chances of finding love by 16%
- Talking to people at the gym increases your chances of finding love by 15%
- Meeting people through shared hobbies increases your chances of finding love by 11%
- Talking to people at clubs and bars increases your chances of finding love by 9%
- Meeting your friend’s friends increases your chances of finding love by 4%
Will I ever find love again after a breakup?
Yes. Most likely, yes! So don’t lose hope! Just because your last relationship didn’t work out doesn’t mean you’re destined to be alone forever. There’s plenty of fish in the sea, and eventually, you’ll find someone absolutely perfect for you. He or she will be EXACTLY your type and give you the love you deserve. So keep your chin up and keep looking for love – it’s out there waiting for you!
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Why do I feel like I’ll never find love?
Why do I feel like I’ll never find love? This is a question many of us have asked ourselves at one point or another. Maybe we’ve been single for what seems like forever, and all our friends are in happy relationships. Or maybe we’ve just had a string of bad luck with dating. Whatever the reason, it’s easy to feel like we’ll be single forever. BUT THIS IS NOT TRUE!
Our past doesn’t define our future. We literally never know what’s around the corner. Who knows, you could wake up the next day and meet the love of your life at a grocery store. Or you could go on a first date that turns out to be absolutely amazing! So even though it might feel like you’ll never find love, there’s always hope!
Will I find love again at 30 or 40?
At 30 or 40, you might not be as carefree and spontaneous as you were in your 20s. You might have more responsibilities and less time for dating. But that doesn’t mean you can’t find love!
Now that you’re a little bit older, you actually have a better chance of finding a lasting relationship because you now know what you want in a partner. You’re not trying to waste your time on casual relationships that go nowhere. And, your standards are probably way higher, which is good! Plus, many people out there are looking for love in their 30s or 40s. So you still have sooooo many options!
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Now go put yourself out there and show the world how freaking amazing and loveable you are, queen!