Is he always hitting you up late at night or taking forever to reply to your texts? Here are signs he’s a player and will break your heart.
How do you tell if a guy is playing you?
You know the drill. You meet a guy, you start dating, things seem to be going great… and then suddenly he disappears. No call, no text, no nothing. So how do you spot the red flags and avoid being played again? Here are some signs he’s a player:
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1. He’s always ‘too busy’ to see you.
If a guy is really into you, he’ll find time to see you, no matter how busy he is. If he’s always making excuses about why he can’t see you, it’s likely because he’s not that into you.
Think about it! If you were a guy and you were really into a girl, wouldn’t you want to see her 24/7? No matter how busy you are, you’d make time to see her for even just 5 minutes. And the only reason you wouldn’t do that is if she’s not a priority in your life. Period.
2. He’s not being transparent with you
A major red flag of a player is lack of transparency. He only engages or finds time for you when it’s convenient for him. Any other time you’re left in the dark about his whereabouts or what he might have going on.
If he does share something with you it lacks depth and he often downplays the importance of you feeling secure and trusting him. A lack of transparency can look like inconsistent communication and feeling like you have to pull teeth to learn anything it.
Your woman’s intuition usually catches disingenuous behaviors quickly, so always listen to your inner voice.
3. He doesn’t want to define the relationship
If he’s happy to cruise along without any labels, it’s a good bet that he’s not looking for anything serious. He may say that he wants to take things slow or that he’s not ready for commitment, but those are probably just excuses.
If a guy is genuinely interested you, he’ll want to make you his girl. You wouldn’t feel confused about his intentions or where your ‘situationship’ is going. Instead, he’ll typically make it clear from the jump that he wants to take things further!
So if he’s not willing to put a label on your relationship, it’s definitely one of the major signs he’s a player.
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4. He’s super flaky!
As anyone who has ever been ghosted can attest, flakiness is one of the most frustrating things in the world. You think you’re on the same page with someone, only to have them completely disappear on you. It’s even more frustrating when it happens again and again.
If you’re wondering whether a guy is playing you, one clear sign is if he’s super flaky. If he’s constantly canceling plans or taking forever to get back to your texts, it’s a pretty good indication that he’s not interested in anything serious.
So, if you’re tired of inconsistency, it might be time to cut this flaky player out of your life. It’ll save you a lot of pain and heartbreaks down the line.
5. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends or family
This is a big one. If a guy is serious about you, he’ll want to introduce you to the people who matter most to him. If he’s not, it’s likely he’s keeping you at a distance on purpose.
But of course, there are always exceptions to the rule. I have a friend who dated this guy. Two weeks in, he already introduced her to all of his family and friends. But little did she know, he had a baby mama he was hiding the whole time. So yea, watch out girls! Lol!
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6. Your relationship is only physical
If your relationship is only physical, it’s pretty clear he’s just playing you. I mean, sure, it’s nice to have someone to cuddle with on a cold winter night (or any night in general). But if that’s all he’s interested in, then he’s not really interested in you. He’s just using you for your body. And that’s not cool!
If you’re looking for a deeper connection, then you need to find someone else. Someone who actually wants to get to know you and loves you for more than your physical appearance. Because that’s the only way a truly meaningful relationship can develop!
Other signs he’s a player:
- He’s always texting or messaging you, but never actually makes plans to see you in person.
- There’s always an excuse for why he can’t meet up with you or why he’s running late.
- He never shows affection in public.
- He’s always talking about other girls, either in a way that makes you feel jealous or in a way that makes it clear he’s not interested in you.
- His idea of a romantic outing is always something cheap or free, like getting coffee or going for a walk in the park.
- Things always have to go his way or else he’d get annoyed or pushy.
- He frequently cancels plans at the last minute or stands you up entirely.
- He’s always talking about himself and never asks about you.
- Your gut feeling is telling you that he’s not interested.
- He breadcrumbs you.
- He’s hot one day and then cold the next.
- His actions doesn’t match his words.
- You never know where you stand with him and you’re always feeling drained and confused.
- He doesn’t call you when he says he’s going to.
- He never lets you touch his phone.
Signs he is a player through text
So you’ve been texting him for a while now and you’re wondering whether or not he might be an f boy? Here are some other signs he’s a player.
He always replies with one-word answers.
You ask him how his day was and he responds with “good.” You tell him about your exciting new project at work and he says, “sounds cool.” You might think he’s just being a guy, but the truth is, he doesn’t really care.
No in-depth conversation whatsoever.
He keeps the conversations shallow because he’s just not that interested and doesn’t really want to get to know you on a deeper level. Instead, he just wants to know what you look like naked.
You’re constantly the one initiating conversations.
If he never seems to put in any effort, it’s a pretty clear sign that he’s a player. He’s happy to let you do all the work while he sits back and enjoys the ride. This is especially the case if he takes forever to reply to your texts or often seems distracted when you’re chatting. Trust me, if a guy is interested in you, he’ll make an effort to respond quickly and keep the conversation going.
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How do you tell if a player is into you?
A player/f*ckboy is just like any other guy. When they’re into you, you’ll know. Sometimes, it might even be more obvious since players aren’t usually shy about showing their interest. So here are a few key ways to tell if a player is interested in you.
First, pay attention to how much eye contact they make. If they’re constantly looking into your eyes and smiling, it’s a good sign they find you attractive and would like to get to know you more.
Also, watch how much physical contact they initiate. Players are typically pretty touchy-feely. If they’re constantly touching you on the arm or leg, it’s another sign they’re into you.
Finally, listen to the things they say. Are they always complimenting you, trying to make you laugh, or impressing you with stories about their achievements? Yea, this might be another good sign.
Next time you’re interacting with a player, look out for these three things to see if you’re their next target, lol!
Things a player will say to you
Okay, girl. I’ve had plenty of unpleasant experiences when it comes to dealing with players, so I know exactly the types of things they’d say to make you fall for them.
They’d say all the right things like:
- You’re different.
- I’ve never felt this way before.
- Don’t worry, I’d never hurt you.
- I can’t stop thinking about you.
They make you feel special, like you’re the only one that matters. You’re caught up in the moment and before you know it, you’re head over heels. But then they disappear. They stop texting, they make excuses, they give you the silent treatment. And you’re left wondering what went wrong.
If only you had known that those sweet words were just a game to them, a way to get what they wanted. If only you had realized that you weren’t the only one they were saying those things to. And if only you had known that you deserved better….
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Let him go, sis!
I hope these signs he’s a player was helpful to you. If he’s breadcrumbing you, treating you like sh*t, giving you the bare minimum, and not making any effort at all, it’s time to let him go, sis!!
I know it can be super hard, especially if you like him a lot. But the truth is, you can’t change a player and make him commit. If he’s not ready for a relationship, then he’s not ready! Stop waiting around and hoping he’ll change someday. You’ll only get hurt.
There are 7 billion people on planet earth and you’re focusing on this one guy who doesn’t want you? GIRL! NOOOOO! Please do yourself a favor and let that man go. Trust me, the universe has someone who’s a trillion times better than this player who’s breaking your heart. YOU DESERVE BETTER and you know it!