There is plenty of fish in the sea, but which one is hubby material? Here are 32 qualities of a good man to marry in the future.
What are great qualities in a man to look for?
Before you tie the knots with a guy, it’s so so so freaking important to make sure he’s someone you can see yourself with for the rest of your life.
He can’t just be a handsome face! Looks will fade and eventually he’ll turn into a wrinkly grandpa. But personality? That’s something that will stay with him forever.
So make sure he has the qualities of a good man to marry before your walk down the aisle with him.
1. He’s good at communicating his feelings
Communication is insanely important in a relationship/marriage. You want to marry someone who’s good at expressing his feelings and isn’t afraid to share what’s going on with him, both good and bad.
If he’s not able to communicate effectively and always gives you the silent treatment in an argument, then you might want to rethink whether you’re able to tolerate this kind of behavior long-term.
A guy who’s a good communicator will make marriage soooo much easier. So if you’re looking for a lifetime partner, communication skills should be high on your list of qualities of a good man to marry.
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2. He listens
I mean, think about it: you’re going to be spending the rest of your life with this person, so you want someone who’s going to be there for you, right?
If he doesn’t listen to you when you tell him your deepest secrets or express your feelings, then he doesn’t really care much about you.
Someone who cares about you will want to be there for you when you need someone to lend a shoulder to cry on or an ear to vent to.
3. He makes you laugh
Life is too short not to have fun! A marriage will last so much longer if your partner has a good sense of humor and can make even the worst situations more bearable with a little laughter.
Find a guy who makes you laugh so hard that you can barely breathe and feel like you’re gonna pass out, LOL! These are the best types of relationships.
4. You can trust him 100%
Marriage is a big commitment! Probably the biggest commitment you make in life. So you’ll want to make sure that you can trust your partner 100%.
Ask yourself: Does he keep his promises? Does he make an effort to be transparent in his actions and words? Is he always honest with you, even when it’s tough?
If your answers are ‘no,’ ‘no,’ and ‘no,’ then it’s time to sit down with your partner and have a talk.
5. He makes you a better person
I’m not saying that you need to be perfect before you get married, but it’s important to feel like the best version of yourself when you’re with your boyfriend.
After all, why would you want to be with someone who brings out the most toxic and worst version of yourself? Not cute!
A good guy will help you to see the best in yourself and make you feel like you can conquer the world and achieve your wildest dreams.
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6. He’s kind and has a good heart
Who wants to marry a jerk? Not me!
A kind soul and a good heart is probably the best characteristic any person can have. It doesn’t matter how much money a guy has; if he’s rude and mean, he’s not hubby-material. NOPE!
A kind man is someone who’s always willing to lend a listening ear or a helping hand, whether you need it or not. He’s compassionate and caring and genuinely cares about others.
7. He’s a gentleman
When you’re looking for a guy to marry, you want someone who’s a true gentleman. Someone who will open doors for you, help you with your coat, and pull out your chair at the restaurant.
He’s considerate and attentive and always puts your needs first.
Plus, he’s not afraid to show his feelings, whether it’s telling you how much he loves you or showing his emotions.
If you’re lucky enough to find a guy like this, hang on tight GIRL!
8. You feel safe around him
Okay, this doesn’t mean he has to be a 6’6 bodyguard or a firefighter (though that’d be nice,) but he should make you feel protected when you’re with him.
And this doesn’t just mean physically, but also emotionally!
Being safe around him (emotionally) means that you can tell him anything without being judged. He makes you feel like you’re the only woman in the world and doesn’t make you constantly question your worthiness.
That’s the kind of guy you want to marry.
9. He’s ambitious and motivated
Masculine energy is all about doing, achieving, and conquering, which is why a guy who’s ambitious and knows exactly what he wants in life is soooo attractive!
As women, we want a guy who can complement our feminine energy. So when you’re looking for a guy to marry, make sure he has ambition and drive.
He shouldn’t just be sitting around all day expecting you to take care of him – he should be out there working hard to make his dreams come true.
10. He has high emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage emotions. It’s about being aware of your own emotions and the emotions of others, and being able to regulate them in yourself and your relationships.
Guys with high emotional intelligence can manage their own emotions, and they’re also good at reading your emotions.
They understand that not everyone experiences things the same way, and they’re patient and understanding when it comes to handling different points of view.
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11. He’s sweet!
I mean, which girl doesn’t want a sweet and gentle guy to sweep her off her feet?
Your future hubby should know how to treat you right and be there for you when you need him.
For example, he doesn’t mind taking care of all the little things around the house – like fixing that leaky faucet or vacuuming out the car.
He’ll do anything and everything to make you feel like a princess and the luckiest girl in the world!
12. He’s your best friend
You’ll be spending the rest of your life with your future hubby, so it’s important to make sure you click on both a platonic and romantic level.
A guy who’s your best friend and lover will know how to make you laugh, how to comfort you when you’re feeling down, and how to support you through thick and thin.
If you don’t see yourself being friends with your guy outside of a romantic relationship, then it might be time to rethink whether you’re the right fit for each other.
Other 20 qualities of a good man
Here are some other qualities of a good man to marry : )
- Loves kids and animals (or at least tolerates them, LOL)
- Enjoys spending time with family and friends.
- Likes trying new things and experiences.
- Takes care of himself physically and mentally.
- Has his own hobbies and interests outside of your relationship.
- Willing to forgive you when you make a mistake.
- You can be yourself around him
- You share similar values, beliefs, and goals for the future.
- Makes you feel respected and appreciated.
- Isn’t stingy.
- Compassionate and empathetic.
- Thoughtful and romantic.
- Willing to put in the effort to make the relationship work.
- Isn’t afraid to admit he’s wrong and apologize.
- Always puts a smile on your face : )
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Is there a perfect man qualities list?
Is there a definitive list of the qualities of a good man to marry? No, not really! Your idea of a perfect could be entirely different from mine. I like someone who’s funny, taller than me, and shares my love/obsession for oreo cheesecakes.
For you, this kind of guy might not be your type, at all! So at the end of the day, the perfect guy doesn’t exist (objectively.)
But that’s okay! Because the beauty of relationships is that we can learn and grow with another person. So instead of looking for some unattainable ideal, focus on finding someone who you can connect with on a deeper level.
Someone who loves you for who you are and makes you happy! Isn’t that the most important thing?
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Find someone who treats you right, sis!
Find someone who treats you right, sis! Please do not settle for anyone who only meets 10% of your criteria. Take your time and have faith the perfect guy will show up in your life. Manifest that sh*t! Haha. No, I’m actually being serious : )
You deserve to be treated with respect and love, and you deserve to be in a relationship that makes you happy. So don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve.
Visualize how you want your perfect relationship to be and how you want to feel in that relationship. And trust that the universe will make this vision come to life. Because it will. <3