Not sure if he really likes you or not? Here are some tips on how to tell if a guy is interested in you or just being friendly.
How to tell if a guy is interested in you or just being friendly?
It can sometimes be so difficult to tell if a guy is truly interested in you or just being friendly. I think most of us have experienced this confusion before and still, to this day, don’t know the answer.
So here are some signs that might help you figure out whether he likes you:
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1. Pay attention to his body language:
If a guy is interested in you, he will usually have open body language. He will lean in when he’s talking to you, and he’ll try to make eye contact. If he’s closed off or defensive, he’s probably not interested.
2. Notice how he talks to you:
If a guy is just being friendly, he’ll usually talk to you in a casual way. He’ll ask about your day or what you’re up to, but he won’t get too personal.
If a guy is interested in you, he’ll want to know more about you. He’ll ask about your hobbies, your family, and your dreams.
3. Watch for signals of flirting:
If a guy is interested in you, he’ll have no problem making small talk. However, if he’s just being friendly, he’ll feel awkward doing this.
If he is truly interested in you, then when he sees that you’re talking to someone else or walking away, let’s say to get another drink, he will follow you to the bar or wherever you are going.
He’ll want to be close by in case there’s a lull in the conversation, so he can jump back in.
4. See if he reaches out to you:
A guy who is interested will send small signals your way, like asking for your number. If he’s just being friendly, though, he won’t put in the effort.
If a guy wants to see you again, he’ll ask for your number and set up a date before he leaves the bar or party.
5. Notice how much time he spends with you:
If a guy is interested, he will try to make sure that you spend as much time together as possible. If a guy is just being friendly, he won’t make as much effort.
In this case, if you kick back and enjoy your time together, he probably wants to be friends only.
6. Watch for signs of physical contact:
When a man likes a woman there will usually be some form of physical contact at the end of the night. If a guy who’s interested in you tries to act like everything is normal, this doesn’t necessarily mean he isn’t into you. He may just be nervous or trying not to scare you off.
How can you tell if someone is flirting or just being nice?
When you’re trying to figure out whether or not a guy is interested in you, it can be difficult to tell the difference between flirting and being nice.
Flirting usually involves a lot of eye contact, playful banter, and subtle touches, while being nice generally just means being friendly and polite.
If you’re not sure whether or not the guy you’re interested in is flirting with you, there are a few things you can look for to help you decide.
If he’s making a lot of eye contact, laughing at your jokes, and touching you lightly on the arm, then it’s likely that he’s interested in you.
Conversely, if he’s not making much eye contact, seems uninterested in what you have to say, and doesn’t want to touch you at all, then he may not be interested in you.
There’s also the possibility that the guy is just socially awkward or nervous around you. If this is the case, then he might look uninterested because he is focusing so hard on trying to think of something interesting to say.
So remember that there is always an exception! Sometimes he’s just shy!!
However, from my personal experience, I realize that when a guy actually likes you, he’ll always initiate! He’ll text you first, call you first, and ask to hang out!
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What are signs of attraction?
1. Leaning in: When someone is attracted to someone else, they will subconsciously lean in closer to get a better look or to hear them better. If you notice the person you are speaking to leaning in towards you, it is likely that they are attracted to you.
2. Mirroring: People often mirror each other’s body language when they are attracted to one another. If the person you are talking to begins copying your movements, it is a sign that they are interested in you.
3. Eye contact: Strong eye contact is a key indicator of attraction. If the person you are talking to is constantly making eye contact with you and holds your gaze, it is likely that they find you attractive.
4. Changed speech: If someone is attracted to you, they will unconsciously change their speech. Usually, this is an indication that the person speaking is nervous and anxious around you.
5. Touching: This can be either a conscious or unconscious sign of attraction. If the person you are speaking to touches any part of your body as they speak, it is a sign that they are interested in you.
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Signs he is being friendly
When you’re trying to determine if a guy is interested in you, it can be difficult to tell the difference between friendliness and romantic interest.
Luckily, there are some signs that can help you figure out what he’s thinking.
1. He talks to you about other people more than he talks to you about himself.
When a guy is truly interested in you in a romantic sense, he’ll want to know all sorts of things about you. And also share with you everything you need to know about him.
However, if he’s always talking about other people, it’s because he’s not interested in getting to know you.
2. He doesn’t make any physical contact with you.
A guy who is interested in you will want to touch you and get close to you. If he’s always keeping his distance, it means that he’s not interested, or doesn’t want to come off that way.
However, I know some guys who are super touchy-feely with everybody, even their friends. So definitely take this sign with a grain of salt. Because it really depends on the person.
3. He never asks you out on a date.
If a guy is interested in you, he’ll want to take you out on dates and spend time with you. If he never asks you out, it’s because he’s not interested! Of course, there are exceptions, but when a guy really likes you, you’ll know.
There will almost be no doubt in your mind because it’ll be so obvious. He’ll most likely ask you out on a date, ask if you have a boyfriend, and outwardly express his interest.
4. He doesn’t compliment you or flirt.
A guy who is interested in you will be trying his best to impress you and make you like him. If he isn’t complimenting your looks, personality, clothes, etc., it’s because he might not be that into you.
Also, if you guy wants to know he likes you, he’ll most likely flirt with you, and it’ll be pretty obvious.
5. He doesn’t initiate conversations with you.
If he only responds to what you say and doesn’t intentionally initiate conversations with you, he might not be that into you, and is only being friendly.
Whereas if a guy is interested in you in a romantic way, he will be eager to talk to you all the time and make conversation with you.
6. He doesn’t try to get you alone.
A guy who is interested in you will want to spend time with you one on one, away from other people.
If he’s not trying to get you somewhere without anyone else around, it means that he’s probably not interested in dating you and just wants to be friends.
The bottom line
If you really want to know whether or not a guy really likes you, you can literally just ask him (assuming that you’ve known him long enough and there are pretty clear signs he likes you)!
I know, it’s intimidating and scary to put yourself out there like that, but I’d rather know the truth than staying up all night wondering whether he likes me or not.
But! If you’re not ready to ask him yet, I hope this post on “how to tell if a guy is interested in you or just being friendly” was able to help you figure out some clues!
xoxo,
Jamila
