He’s been taking longer and longer to reply to your texts. Here’s how to respond when he finally texts you back.
6 tips on how to respond when he finally texts you back
Okay. So it’s been 3 days since you last texted each other, and you’re losing sleep over why he’s not texting you back. This morning, you finally received that text you’ve been waiting for. But he’s acting like nothing’s happened. What should you say and how to respond when he finally texts you back?
1. Ask him what happened
If you’re terrified of confrontation (like me, lol), you might be tempted to pretend that nothing has happened and move on with your life. But let me tell you. Coming from my personal experience, if you want a relationship to work, you can’t just ignore things that are bothering you.
If he usually replied pretty fast, but hasn’t texted you at all for some time, you must be feeling a bit bothered! And that’s normal! So ask him directly to see what happened? You deserve to know.
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2. Don’t play games
If he hasn’t texted you for one whole week, don’t try to retaliate and ignore him for a week, too. It’s emotionally taxing for the both of you, and it’s just unnecessary.
Sure, you can wait maybe thirty minutes to gather your thoughts before texting him back. But don’t purposefully ignore him just to get back at him. Playing mind games is super childish and can quickly turn your relationship toxic.
3. Know your worth
Before replying to his text, take a deep breath and remind yourself of your worth. This guy may have taken his sweet time, but that doesn’t mean you should become desperate or fear rejection.
You’re an amazing catch, and you deserve to be treated with respect. So, take your time in responding. Make sure your response is well though through and not just a knee-jerk reaction.
(Lol, the amount of times I’ve looked back at my texts and cringed!! I’m sure you don’t want to feel this way.)
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4. Don’t lose your cool
So, he finally texts back after ignoring you for days (or maybe even weeks). And of course, you’re totally pissed. I mean, who wouldn’t be?
But is getting angry and yelling at him going to make the situation better? Probably not! He’s just going think you’re crazy and can’t control your emotions.
So whatever the case may be, please don’t lose your cool. Have a mature conversation with him and let him know how his actions affected you.
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5. Tell him how you feel
Communication is so so so important in a relationship. If your partner’s actions hurt you, please let him know so that he won’t do it again.
So if he’s been ignoring your texts, call him out on it! This will let him know that you’re not going to tolerate being ignored and that he’ll need to be more responsive if he wants to continue the relationship.
Don’t be afraid to express your own needs and desires in the relationship. He can’t read your mind! If you feel like you need more attention, let him know.
How to respond when he finally texts you back?
Sometimes, no response is the best response. If you’re absolutely done with this guy and don’t want to hear from him again. Just block and delete his number and move on. Period.
Would a guy text you if he wasn’t interested?
OMG, YES! This is actually what a lot of f*ck boys and narcissists do! I’ve personally experienced this a lot during my time in college.
Even though they’re not genuinely interested in you, they’ll still text you to see if you’re interested in them.
Your response gives them the EGO boost they desperately need.
I know… this is super annoying because they’re toying with your feelings. They text you every now and then to keep you hooked, and then disappear when you want commitment.
So how do you tell if he’s interested even though he’s texting you?! See if his words match his actions.
If he’s texting you a lot, saying that he loves you and wants to be with you, don’t 100% believe him without seeing him follow through with it. PERIOD.
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How often should a guy text you if he likes you?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, honestly. Every guy is different. Some guys genuinely don’t like texting and would rather see you in person, so they might not text as often. Or, some guys are busy af at work and don’t have the time to text you every 30 minutes.
But as a general rule of thumb, checking with you at least once a day is a pretty good sign that he’s interested in getting to know you more. This shows that you’re on his mind and one of his top priorities.
Of course, like I said before. There’s no definite answer. So don’t be too worried if he hasn’t texted you for 6 hours. He just might be busy.
But! If he’s been inconsistent: saying that he’ll text/call you and then completely disappear for an entire week. Then in this case, he’s probably just not that into you.
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What to say when he texts after ghosting?
Being ghosted is the worst feeling ever. If he’s vanished into thin air for a long time and finally decides to hit you up again, here’s how to respond when he finally texts you back after ghosting:
- “I don’t appreciate you disappearing on me like that. It’s quite inconsiderate and rude.”
- “I’m not interested in dating someone who isn’t considerate of my feelings.”
- “It’s not cool to just stop responding to someone’s texts and then reappear out of nowhere weeks later expecting things to pick up where they left off.”
- “If you’re not interested in me, just be upfront about it from the beginning so you wouldn’t waste my time.”
- “Hey. I’m actually not that interested in texting anymore. Let’s just not contact each other from now on.”
By showing him that you have boundaries, he’ll know that you’re the wrong girl to mess with.
Should I text him back after he ignored me for days?
Welllllll. This is a hard question to answer. Generally, I’d say no. But there are some exceptions:
1. You know he’s going through stuff:
If he’s told you that he’s been going through some stuff in his personal life, then him ignoring you might be because he genuinely doesn’t have the energy to talk.
I’ve been there before, and I know how emotionally draining it is to have to put on a smiley face for others when you feel like crying in bed all day. So, maybe consider giving him some space. He’ll reach out when he’s ready. And when he reaches out, don’t ignore him. Ask him how he’s doing.
2. You don’t mind being just friends:
If you know (deep down inside) that he’s not the right one for you and you’re better off staying friends, then him ignoring you for a few days shouldn’t bother you that much.
If you’re friends with someone and he/she doesn’t reply for a few days, you know they’re probably busy with other things in their life and don’t have the time to reply. It’s totally understandable. You wouldn’t just ignore them when they reply.
So if you don’t mind being just friends with him, you don’t need to be as strict about how quickly he replies. But if you want a serious relationship, then him ignoring you can be a serious red flag since communication is key, especially in a romantic relationship.
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3. You know he has an avoidant attachment style
When guys with avoidant attachment styles feel like they’re getting too close to someone, they naturally retreat back into their shell. So if you know the guy you’re texting has this kind of attachment style, don’t take it personal when he ignores you for a few days.
It’s his natural responses. He’s scared of getting hurt and doesn’t want the relationship to move too quickly. When he finally responds, talk to him about it and let him know how his behavior made you feel.
You deserve someone who loves you!
I hope these tips on how to respond when he finally texts you back has been helpful!!
Remember, you deserve someone who treats you with respect and actually puts in effort to make the relationship work. Don’t settle for a guy who constantly ignores your needs and doesn’t care about your feelings.
If you don’t feel happy in a relationship, leave. I know this might not be an easy thing to do, but it’s absolutely necessary for your mental health.
Wishing you lots of love and happiness : )